What my friends say about me from A-Z

I asked my friends to describe me using adjectives from A to Z, and here is what they said…braille-alphabet-flashcard-aawesome, authentic, adventurous

braille-alphabet-flashcard-bbeautiful,  bright, brave

braille-alphabet-flashcard-ccaring, creative, conscientious

braille-alphabet-flashcard-ddiligent

braille-alphabet-flashcard-eenergizing, energetic, easy going

braille-alphabet-flashcard-ffunny, friendly, faithful, funny, funky, fun loving, fabulous

braille-alphabet-flashcard-ggenerous, genuine, gryffindor, goofy

braille-alphabet-flashcard-hhappy, helpful, hopeful, healthy

braille-alphabet-flashcard-iintelligent, Inspired, innovative

braille-alphabet-flashcard-jjoyful

braille-alphabet-flashcard-kkind

braille-alphabet-flashcard-lloquacious, legend

braille-alphabet-flashcard-mmotivated, mindful

braille-alphabet-flashcard-nnatural

braille-alphabet-flashcard-oopen, optimistic

braille-alphabet-flashcard-ppersistant, personable

braille-alphabet-flashcard-qquirky

braille-alphabet-flashcard-rresilient, reliable, radiant

braille-alphabet-flashcard-ssassy, strong, serene, silly, sweet

braille-alphabet-flashcard-ttalented, tolerant, tubular, too legit to quit, tenacious

braille-alphabet-flashcard-uunique

braille-alphabet-flashcard-vvivacious

braille-alphabet-flashcard-wwilling, wino, warm, wicked

braille-alphabet-flashcard-xxerophilous

braille-alphabet-flashcard-yyouthful

braille-alphabet-flashcard-zzesty, zealous

Fight Fire with Flowers

Here's a lovely photo of a flower from our Honeymoon in Hawaii

Here’s a lovely photo of a flower from our Honeymoon in Hawaii

I have come to find that there will always be a Yin to my Yang.  There will always be an oil to my water.  There will always be  a reaction to my action.  However, what I realized this morning is that the best way to get what you want is to fight fire with flowers.

What?  Fight fire with flowers?

Yes.  To make ugliness in the world disappear, we must replace it with beauty.  What is more lovely and naturally beautiful than a flower?

I have my personal, professional, and emotional fires sometime simmering, sometimes, smoldering, and sometimes boiling over.

Thank you Mrs. Anderson for the image of the flower in my Facebook newsfeed this morning.

 

 

An Update on Marley Jane and Mrs. Cane

Could you, would you, ever imagine a child going to school in a wheelchair and being told that she couldn’t use her wheelchair in the classroom because it wasn’t a school district issued wheelchair?

Could you, would you, ever imagine a child taking his inhaler to school and being told he wasn’t allowed to use it because he hadn’t yet been approved by a certified school employee?

Could you, would you, ever imagine  a blind child being denied access to her cane in her classroom?

That was exactly what happened in our case.   Just a few weeks ago, I wrote about how Marley was excited to bring her cane to school in the blog post, “Marley Jane and Mrs. Cane.”  She’d named her cane on a recent hike, and asked if she could bring Mrs. Cane to school.  What other answer could I give her but an enthusiastic, “Yes, of course you can!”   We made sure to go over all our cane rules with Marley before heading to the classroom.  We explained to her teacher that we want to encourage her to use the cane, and went over our rules about the cane with them as well.  After school that day, Marley excitedly told us all about how she told the other kids that it wasn’t a stick, it was her cane which she uses to help her find things by tapping in front of her.

That was on a Monday.

Just two days later, on Wednesday, my husband and I met with her teacher to go over Marley’s IEP and progress in the classroom.  I left the meeting knowing that even though things might be moving slowing with getting Braille integrated and implemented via her IEP, due to legal logistics and bureaucratic school district red tape in the form of assessments, parent signatures, more assessments, and more parent signatures, we would get Braille sooner than later as long as we kept pushing for it.  In the mean time, I will be personally putting Braille in Marley’s classroom while we wait.

That day, a few specialists from the CCSD Vision Services came to observe Marley in her class, toss the ball around with her to test her motor skills, and make the decision that Marley was not allowed to use her cane at school.   Upon receiving this news from her preschool teacher when picking Marley up at the end of the day, i thanked her for the message, and told her I’d take care of the issue.

How did I feel about that?

Frustrated, furious, and fuming would be putting nicely how I felt that evening.

What did I do?

First, I posted the situation on Facebook for support and advice from my friends, especially those who were professionals in the field of Teaching Blind Children, Orientation and Mobility, and advocacy.   I was right to be upset.  This was completely against ADA law, and against the National White Cane Law.  This was exactly like the airlines telling us we can’t have our canes.  Denying a blind person access to tools of independence is denying them the right to participate in society, and in life.

Second, after calming down a few degrees, I called Marley’s TVI (teacher of the visually impaired) the next morning to find out what had actually been said and why.  She explained she had not been there when the other school district employee had made the decision about Marley’s cane, would find out for me the details of the situation, and would give her supervisor a call.  I’ve never actually met Marley’s TVI in person.  Marley’s case had been transferred to her on the first week of school.  I am please to say that I get great vibes from her positivity and willingness to work with me for Marley’s best interest in mind.

That afternoon I received a call back from the supervisor of vision services per my request.  She explained the school district employee was concerned that Marley had not had proper training with the cane by a certified CCSD Orientation and Mobility (O&M) instructor.  She was afraid of Marley getting hurt or hurting others with her cane.  She wanted to wait until and O&M specialist could evaluate Marley with her cane.  I explained that Marley has indeed had great training on the cane, that she has also observed me with my cane her entire life, she has always wanted a cane of her own since before we were even aware of her eye condition, she understands and aknowledges that her cane helps her from tripping and running into obstacles, and most importantly that Marley is excited about using her cane.  Why would any adult want to take that from a blind child?

Shortly after our phone call, I received this email which had been sent to all members of Marley’s educational team.

“I understand Marley Rupp is bringing a cane from home to school. One of our teachers expressed a concern about her bringing her cane to school because it wasn’t issued by CCSD. From my discussions with Ms. Huff, my understanding is Marley is using it in a safe manner. Marley’s mom expressed she would like Marley to have access to her cane during the school day. Also, she informed me Marley has had private instruction on how to use her cane. My recommendation is for Marley to have access to her cane during the school day as long as she is demonstrating safe use of it . Also, I am asking one of our orientation and mobility specialist to visit Wright ES on Monday and observe Marley’s use of her cane.  I do recommend completing an orientation and mobility referral and a CCF 555, so proper assessment can be administered.”

Though it might look like we’ve won this battle,  my heart breaks thinking of the damage which has already been done.  Immediately following, Marley expressed she no longer wanted to take her cane to school.  She was afraid she would get in trouble for having it, and she was afraid of someone taking it away from her.  She has also started having night terrors again, and talking in her sleep about her cane.  I find myself constantly telling her to keep the tip on the ground and in front of her.  Worst of all, I was forced to take it away from her before school because of her behavior and misuse of it.

What do we do now, and how to we heel his wound?

We bring the excitement back!  We get her wanting to use her cane again.  Even better,  we help her feel proud of her cane.

Marley, me, and our canes at Spring Mountain Ranch State Park on her birthday adventure hike

Marley is in the middle of track break until the first week of November.  During this time, we will have our cane with us everywhere we go.  We take every opportunity to educate anyone who might have questions about it.  We even spent last Saturday celebrating both Marley and her little brother’s birthdays with a picnic adventure hike where Marley got to show off her awesome purple cane to her friends.  All of her friends now want a purple cane just like Marley.   We will even be decorating our canes and using them as part of our Halloween costumes as our fairy wands.

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Together, especially my little Marley and her Mrs. Cane will change what it means to be blind by redefining rules, mystifying misconceptions, and conquering our dreams one tap at a time.

Marley and Mrs. Cane, midstep, midtap

 

 

Literally Plant a Seed by Joining the Puzzle Campaign

How to I even begin this blog?  I am a 31 year old mom to two beautifully healthy amazing children.  Pregnancy came easy to me.  It almost seemed like all we had to do was think baby and there I was pregnant.  Unfortunately, the road to motherhood takes a little bit longer with a few extra twists and turns for some,  some women like my dear friend Deja.

Me, Marley in my belly, and my old roomy Deja

Me, Marley in my belly, and my old roomy Deja at the 2009 National Federation of the Blind Annual Convention.

This is not the first time I’ve written about infertility.  However, this time I’m writing for a cause.  I’m writing to spread awareness, asking for help, and sharing the dream that one day Deja can too, hold her new born baby in her arms like I did with my two children.

Baby Marley

Baby Marley

Baby Jackson

Baby Jackson

Deja and her husband started out the year with a different sort of New Year’s resolution.  Their resolution was to have a baby.  Along with writing about blindness and all things stylish on her blog. she shares her stories and battles with infertility.   However, infertility is expensive.  That’s why they’ve launched the Puzzle Campaign.  Learn more about this awesome couple, and the Puzzle Campaign by checking out Deja’s blog at Slate and Stylish I’m embarrassed to say that I have not yet contributed to the Pubble Campaign. Deja, here is ourpledge.  I pledge $40., $20 for each of our two children. We are also donating a canvas print from The Seed Project to their upcoming online auction. Please consider contributing to the Puzzle Campaign or participating in next month’s auction to make this couple’s dream of becoming parents come true.

Why was that mom crying?

This afternoon, we decided to kill the 2.5 hours that my daughter was in school by hanging out at a nearby park, instead of turning around and driving the 20 minutes back to our house for us to turn around again and drive the 20 minutes back to pick her up.

me at the top of a giant jungle gym made out of ropes

It was like every other park day.  There was nothing special or different, except since this was a new park, a much bigger park that I’d only been to a few times before, I kept my cane with me the entire time.   We climbed, ran, explored, and made friends with other mommies and kids.

Jack at the top of a hill with a multistory treehouse in the background

As we walked to our car when it was time to leave, we passed a mom with her little boy who were also leaving the park.  The mom was crying as she said, “Sorry I’m so emotional, but she’s so beautiful.”  It wasn’t until we’d passed her up a few parking spaces that I realized she wasn’t talking on the phone.  She had been talking to my husband about me.

Neither one of us could figure out why she was crying.  He’d caught her watching us earlier while we played.  He said it looked like she’d already been crying.  Maybe she was having a bad day?  Maybe she was overcome with empathy while watching a blind mom play with er son?  Maybe she has someone in her life who’s recently gone blind?  I don’t know, and I can’t stop wondering.  I also can’t help feeling like she somewhat felt sorry for me.  Perhaps that’s why her comment about me was directed to my husband instead of directed to me?

Do’s and Don’ts to Remember When Meeting a Blind Person.

October isn’t just for wearing pink and Brest Cancer Awareness. It’s also Meet the Blind Month, so we’re accessorizing with canes, a positive attitude about blindness, and getting out there doing everyday things like everybody else. Here’s Marley with her long purple cane, and me with my long white cane as we leave Town Square after a fun story time and magic show before school today.

Marley with her purple cane and me with my long white cane

Here are just a few friendly reminders of do’s and don’ts when meeting a blind person.

Do; say hello instead of standing around waiting for us to expect to know you’re there.

Don’t; point when we are asking for directions, we are asking because we actually need directions.

Do; ask if we might need assistance.

Don’t; grab us by the arm and drag us to where you think we might be going or across the intersection.

Do; ask us about our blindness if you are curious.  We are more than happy to talk.

Don’t; point and stare, jump over our canes, or pull your children across the street.  Blindness isn’t a contagious disease.

Do; tell us which bills are which when giving us change.

Don’t; say, “Here are your bills, and here are your coins.”  I think we can figure that one out for ourselves.

Do; engage us in conversation.  Some of us actually might have some pretty interesting, intelligent, or hilarious anecdotes to share.

Don’t; yel or speak slowly to us.  We are blind, not deaf.

 

To my blind friends reading this who have your own do’s and don’ts to share, please feel free to comment below.  I’d love to hear from you.

 

From 32,000 Feet

And another one I came across today that I just had to share.  Have a great weekend all, and don’t forget those stars.

“There’s reason to hope. The stars still shine. It’s easy to see them from 32,000 feet up, but when it comes right down to it, it’s just a matter of perspective. Open your eyes. Look up. Make that wish, and believe.”   – –

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I’m sitting on a plane on my way home after a long week on the road, and I’m tired. Baked, fried, closed for business. Once I get to my seat, I usually want to shut down. I don’t talk to the people sitting next to me. Instead, I prefer to put on my headphones, crank up the beats, close my eyes and shut the world away.

Tonight is a little different though. I heard the mumble of the muffled pilot’s voice and would have ignored it, if it had not been for the woman next to me leaning across my lap to peer out the window. Curiosity got the best of me, so I paused the beats just in time to hear him say “Milky Way Galaxy.” Now, I’m peering out the window too, staring at the black canvas sky, littered with stars.

There are millions of them. They’re magnificent…

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Think Love, Be Love

I saw this photo on Facebook this morning and just had to share it.  This week threw me a few curveballs that could have left me angry or discouraged. Instead of letting those initial emotions take charge of my reaction to the situations, I interpreted the situations as a chance to turn my passionate personality into a powerful one with action instead of reaction. I choose to live life with love in my heart, create and emanate positivity, and shun away all things related to anger and hate.

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer also shared this photo saying,

“Think of the people you know who give love in response to negative energy that’s directed their way. There aren’t many people who respond lovingly in that situation. The ones who do are able to because they have love to give away. They know that it’s impossible to give away what they don’t have, and they’ve gone that extra mile to acquire what it is that they want to both attract and give away. If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, then begin by taking stock. What have you got to give away? What are you giving out to the universe, and thus, what are you attracting? Remember that you can’t give away what you don’t have, but you can change your life by changing what’s going on inside.

Low energy attracts low energy. Low energy thoughts, such as anger, hate, shame, guilt, and fear, weaken you. And they attract more of the same. By changing your inner thoughts to the higher frequencies of love, harmony, kindness, peace, and joy, you’ll attract more of the same, and you’ll have those higher energies to give away.

To begin to change what’s inside you, become more loving toward yourself. In your thoughts, cultivate an inner voice and attitude that’s 100 percent on your team. Imagine an inner self that only supports and loves you. You might schedule a certain time of day when that’s the only thought that you allow yourself to pay attention to. Gradually this loving attitude will extend to other people. You’ll begin to receive this energy back and ultimately be able to send thoughts of love and joy to everyone and everything in your world.

Make a pact to remind yourself often of this secret of not being able to give away anything that you don’t have. Then work on your personal program of self-love, self-respect, and self-empowerment, and create a huge inventory of what you wish to give away. If what you give is self-respect and self-love, the universe will return the love and respect you’ve been radiating. It’s really so simple. As the Beatles said: “The love you take is equal to the love you make.”

Marley Jane & Mrs. Cane

Ever since she was little, Marley has always wanted her own cane.  So, of course, when we found out that she’s got mommy’s eyes, we didn’t hesitate to get her one.  What was the first thing we did when her cane arrived in the mail?  We made it purple, Marley’s favorite color.  For the first few months this purple cane remained nameless, until just last Saturday when Marley decided that her cane’s name was Mrs. Cane.

Marley and Mrs. Cane led the way as we spent an afternoon hiking at Spring Mountain Ranch State Park just outside Las Vegas.

 

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It’s apparently obvious that her steps are much more confident when she’s got Mrs. Cane with her.  After many spills, scraped knees, and stubbed toes, she’s starting to realize that she doesn’t have as much of those when Mrs. Cane is there too.

Last week during a thunderstorm, Marly ran into the house to grab Mrs. Cane saying, “I want to see if my cane sounds different in the rain!”

Mrs. Cane doesn’t always go everywhere Marley does.  It’s still a work in process getting her to want to take it along.  We work on the basic cane rules, and practice proper cane etiquette when she does have it with her.

Rules like:

1.  A cane is not a toy, it’s a tool.

2.  Nobody is to hold or use the cane accept Marley.

3.  The cane’s tip always stays on the ground unless when tapping it.

4.  The cane needs to be in front not behind so it can do it’s job right.

5.  If you’re not using the cane, it needs to be lying flat on the floor or standing straight upright so that it won’t trip anyone.

Today was a big day for Marley and Mrs. Cane.  Marley asked if she could bring her cane to school with her.  Of course I said yes.  I have been hesitant to push, wanting her to do it once she felt ready.  Today was that day.

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How was Mrs. Cane’s first day of school? ”

Great!  The other kids called it a stick, but I told them it’s a cane and I tap it like this.” as shetapped rhythmically

Her teacher also said she did great.  There were a few times between station rotations where Marley wasn’t sure where to put her cane and a few kids tripped over it.  We’re all excited to learn new tricks, tools, and tips together and work as a cohesive team with Marley’s best interest in mind.