As you may know I run the Southern Highlands Moms, Babies, and Tots group through mmetup.com. It’s been great getting to meet so many wonderful moms who are all interested in finding friends for themselves and their kids. However, I very recently ran into a situation that I really wasn’t sure exactly how to handle.
I have had many complaints about one of the moms from other members. She has two very rambunctious boys who have on numerous occasions terrorized and hurt the other children, damaged members’ properties, and just recently were asked to leave a birthday party. I really don’t blame the boys. The are only three after all.
If you see your kids eating cupcakes at a party before the birthday song has even been sung, wouldn’t you do something about it? If your children were going through another mom’s purse, wouldn’t you do something about it? If your children hit or pushed another child, wouldn’t you do something about it?
What did those kids’ mom do? She was too busy making videos and taking photos. She sat on the couch on her phone or iPad. Instead of making conversation and getting to know the other moms in the group, or disciplining her children, she videochatted on her iPad.
I had considered letting her stay in the group only letting her access to public play dates and banning her from members homes, but another member brought up a very good question. “What exactly does she bring to the table? She’s never hosted a play date. She’s never opened up her home to us. She’s disengaged and often even has made offensive comments to other moms in the group.” That member was right.
I really hate being the bad guy, but unfortunately, as organizer of the group it was up to me to do something about it. I feel like it’s my responsibility to protect my moms, their children, and their property. So in the end I chose to remove that mom altogether.
What would you have done if you were in my shoes?